“Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Philippians 2:4 (NIV)
She hops in her friend’s car and they head for the park.
“You know, I'm just not into spending time with Sue anymore,” she complains. “She really hasn’t done anything wrong, but this just isn't meeting my needs. It's time to move on and do what’s right for me. She’ll just have to accept it.”
Her friend gasps in amazement, “But she’s your sister!”
We live in a disposable world. From razors to computers. People are disposable too. “What have you done for me lately,” is our motto. Anyone is disposable for any reason, regardless of the length or closeness of the relationship. After all, pleasing ourselves is the most important thing. Or is it?
Let’s face it. Living in relationship with others can be messy and often hurts. But it’s one of God’s tools to prepare us to be with him forever. It's almost like he set up a special school here on earth just for us. The lessons are about humility and living in peace with those around us.
Sometimes harmful relationships can’t be reconciled and we must protect ourselves from toxic people. But in God’s relationship school most of the tests are about reconciliation and serving others in love.
Relationships require commitment. A committed person reconciles differences. A committed person looks out for the interests of the other. But both must be willing. By considering only our interests, are we just using our friends? Does our selfishness show when we refuse to reconcile?
Here’s help to navigate God’s curriculum:
- Take stock of the people in your life. Make commitments.
- Stop breaking off relationships. Make amends where you can.
- Do something special for others. Perhaps they will see Jesus through you.
Strong relationships give life. So why throw away perfectly good people? Consider signing up for a class or two at God’s academy. The lessons are challenging but the rewards are endless. Just remember that God never forgets his friends. Can you do less?
Living for God (TM) offers resources on Christian living. Readers may check out the ministry’s latest workshop, Doing the Disciplines with Jesus and His Friends, at www.livingforgod.net or call (719) 578-8837.
Copyright 2006, Calvin R. Wulf and Lisa Are Wulf
